tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-83795830443097562852024-03-12T15:24:22.572-07:00The Reflective PrismHere I will write about my thoughts and experiences as a mother, wife, career woman. Come watch my self-exploration. I strive towards progress not perfection in my life and in my parenting.nessabeanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11298704518890387530noreply@blogger.comBlogger57125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8379583044309756285.post-65255472982072140062016-10-30T13:42:00.000-07:002016-10-30T13:45:04.651-07:00Whole30 and Weightlifting OutcomesI recently completed a Whole30 for the month of September. I honestly did not put a whole lot of thought or planning into it before I started. The husband did this with me for a week and then decided he couldn't
handle it and put dairy and some grains back in. He also had a work trip
where he had a beer but all in all he complied with the rules about 80%
of the time over the month. He lost nessabeanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11298704518890387530noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8379583044309756285.post-13410779750663658042016-10-30T13:17:00.003-07:002016-10-30T13:17:44.053-07:00The Next Generation Blogs
My 10 year old is now blogging. He will be reviewing all the parts of the world that elicit an emotion from him: books, movies, video games, food, places we stay etc. It's a blog for kids by a kid. Although it could give parents and grandparents some insight into life as a 10 year old as well. Check him out at ultrakidcritic.wordpress.com nessabeanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11298704518890387530noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8379583044309756285.post-24265248446236583472014-08-29T14:24:00.002-07:002014-08-29T14:24:32.612-07:00Getting Fit After Baby #3As you can imagine after baby #3 there are some extra jiggles and smooshiness (yes that is a word) about my body. I do love the roundness of pregnancy and post partum and the giant breastfeeding boobs. However, I had embarked on a personal health and wellness journey in 2012 that started with the C25K and ended with the Tough Mudder. I say ended because I got pregnant with Josephina Marguerita (nessabeanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11298704518890387530noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8379583044309756285.post-8211815024826639042014-05-21T11:58:00.002-07:002014-05-21T12:19:05.091-07:003rd Unplanned Cesarean: The Best One.
I must admit I still had some preconceived notions of what a 'good birth' is this third time around. We all know the end result that is desired is a healthy baby and mom. But what is a 'good birth'? I did not get my VBA2C. This birthing experience ended in another unplanned cesarean. However I would still deem it a 'good birth'. I will always grieve the fact that I never got to experience a nessabeanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11298704518890387530noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8379583044309756285.post-71631083930671623102014-04-04T15:13:00.000-07:002014-04-04T15:14:07.095-07:00Motherhood vs. Career: An Epic BattleI got some news yesterday that really upset me. It shook me to the core. The news was about a possibility of a job. No one died. No one has cancer. Why was I so upset? The job opportunity is a clinical informatics role in chronic disease management. It's the role that I have been told I would be perfect for, for the last 2 years. It merges both my loves the clinical and the technical world. nessabeanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11298704518890387530noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8379583044309756285.post-78190708192472603182014-03-28T08:50:00.000-07:002014-03-28T08:50:13.254-07:00Ignoring My Children I recently read this article on the Benefits of Ignoring Children (Sometimes) over at MDC. I agree with the majority of what this mama writes. My husband's new boss has commented to him that we are raising independent children that can problem solve on their own. She thinks this is rare in this day and age because of all the things we give our kids and the safety nets we have set up. I had to nessabeanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11298704518890387530noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8379583044309756285.post-79113269070663005272014-03-27T10:49:00.000-07:002014-03-28T08:50:46.660-07:00VBA2C Internal Conflict As the End is Near. I am 36 weeks tomorrow. In my my mind thus begins the 'waiting game'. I already have all the prodromal signs of labour. I have had them for weeks. So I'm not expecting anything to alert me that my body is gearing up for labour. Actually I've never gone into labour on my own. With my first I had the cocktail and labour tea which brought on early labour. I never got into the active labour part nessabeanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11298704518890387530noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8379583044309756285.post-6050363618299991602014-02-27T13:33:00.000-08:002014-03-28T08:51:09.065-07:00School, Allergies and EmotionsSchool is hard. Not the academic stuff, although that may be hard for some, but the social intricacies of being a kid and finding your niche. Add to the mix food allergies and you've got a recipe for some very difficult emotional situations for a child. Adults with celiac disease, anaphylaxis, diabetes or other dietary restrictions have trouble dealing with feelings of exclusion when not nessabeanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11298704518890387530noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8379583044309756285.post-45763087411207773102014-02-19T13:53:00.001-08:002014-03-28T08:51:34.308-07:00Chronic Injury: Reflections from a Pregnant WifeI guess I can call it a chronic injury now. It has been 14 months since the car accident in which my husband sustained a back/neck shoulder injury. The first few months were the worst with him having to lie down or sleep most of the time. Dealing with the injury was one thing but dealing with the torrent of emotions was much worse. I felt resentful doing it all. Then I felt guilty for feeling nessabeanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11298704518890387530noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8379583044309756285.post-28562591354769209892014-01-02T14:40:00.000-08:002014-03-28T08:51:56.367-07:00Getting Over Birth TraumaI had a coworker unsuspectingly say something that made me cringe. She said "I just don't get women who get all worked up over having a c-section. Isn't the outcome supposed to be a healthy baby and a healthy mom?" Since I have realized that I found my cesarean births very traumatic and have recently given myself permission to feel sad and angry at my loss of a natural and empowered birth I nessabeanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11298704518890387530noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8379583044309756285.post-27623456050977593252013-11-06T12:55:00.001-08:002014-03-28T08:52:07.488-07:00Attachment Parenting and Indepence is it an either/or?I was recently reading this article why-my-kids-are-not-center-of-my-world on what modern parenting is doing to harm our kids and why they will not be able to function in the world because parents dote on their children and take away the realities of the world. I agree with encouraging children to problem solve, deal with ambiguity, deal with violence and hurt feelings. So in principle I agree nessabeanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11298704518890387530noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8379583044309756285.post-9518185116771256482013-11-05T16:00:00.002-08:002013-11-05T16:00:27.782-08:00Mood Swings or Emotional Instability?When you grow up with a mother that braves/suffers from/lives with mental illness you may, like me, question your own mental state at times. Like when I want to kill someone for chewing too loudly or slurping their coffee next to me. Or when I want to jump up and down and scream at my child for not putting his socks on. Yes, I do indeed have scars from my living with a mother that swung nessabeanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11298704518890387530noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8379583044309756285.post-10794636673439456722013-11-02T16:28:00.001-07:002014-03-28T08:52:24.049-07:00Pregnant again sigh....I know in my heart it should be "Pregnant again Yay!" I am having trouble with the Yay part of it all. I don't remember feeling this blase` about my previous pregnancies. This one was unplanned but it is definitely not unwanted. I want this little being. I am just having a difficult time getting excited about getting fat, feeling awful, having a c-section, bleeding for 8 weeks, intense after nessabeanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11298704518890387530noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8379583044309756285.post-63390253844040208332013-07-27T10:58:00.003-07:002014-03-28T08:54:58.915-07:00Consequences?I am wondering how parents that strive for mindful and peaceful parenting find appropriate consequences for inappropriate behaviour by their children. What are the consequences for breaching the boundaries that are set? Often these behaviours are a result of an unmet need by the child. Like the fact that they need sleep. Does that excuse them from the consequences of behaving awfully? I tendnessabeanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11298704518890387530noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8379583044309756285.post-7334708221698900442013-01-31T11:54:00.002-08:002013-01-31T11:54:47.524-08:00Day 14: Humour 20 days towards more mindful parentingLast year I attempted to go through the twenty day exercise of being a more mindful parent that was started at The Parenting Passageway. However I only lasted until day 13 and even then it was several months between posts 11 and 13. Well as fate would have it Carrie is going through this exercise with her readers for the second time and it looks like I can pick up where I left off.
The nessabeanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11298704518890387530noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8379583044309756285.post-91155388085177623482013-01-31T11:28:00.003-08:002013-01-31T11:28:33.856-08:00The Balancing ActIt's been a while, almost 2 years since I wrote a blog post. Life has been busy. I am a graduate student taking a double degree in nursing and informatics. My husband had a car accident 2 months ago that injured him. My mom moved in and then moved out. My brother got married. My grandmother in law passed away. Yeah life's been moving at a fairly fast clip. I feel like I need to slow down. I am nessabeanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11298704518890387530noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8379583044309756285.post-89825964831838301262011-03-07T09:38:00.000-08:002014-03-28T08:53:57.894-07:00Reading, Writing, ArithmeticMy soon to be 5 year old is learning at light speed the last couple of weeks. I'm sure he probably learns that fast at other times but right now it's very evident to us.
Saturday we were at a WAHM tradeshow in our city. It had some incredibly cool and creative stuff. One of the booths was a math tutor using all sorts of objects from around the house to teach kids math. M gravitated to this booth nessabeanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11298704518890387530noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8379583044309756285.post-36925996497017517932011-02-09T08:05:00.000-08:002011-02-09T10:08:49.296-08:00Pantry ListSo I thought I would take some time to put together a basics lists for those 'strange' items I have in my cupboard.FloursSorghum is the main one I use. It tastes the best in my families opinion.Millet - I usually use this in cakes or cupcakes as it makes a nice moist crumb and has a nice flavorBrown Rice - This is an easy basic flour but I only use it in half amounts since like any rice flour it nessabeanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11298704518890387530noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8379583044309756285.post-74952905163981622322011-01-03T08:22:00.000-08:002011-01-03T08:25:04.957-08:00Yet another giveawayI just rearranged the house and we are making a playroom since we are all sleeping in the same room right now why not put the toys in one room. I have my living room back! So the next thing is to get the toys and the books down from M's old room. But..... I have nowhere to tidily store the books. So I want to win this BEAUTIFUL bookcase. It takes up hardly any space and they can organize their nessabeanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11298704518890387530noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8379583044309756285.post-3475893966043630202010-12-14T11:39:00.001-08:002010-12-14T11:40:19.114-08:00Trying to win the spunky coconut's new cookbook and you should tooHere's the link to gluten free easily where the giveaway is.nessabeanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11298704518890387530noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8379583044309756285.post-59850377956270788902010-12-07T11:33:00.000-08:002010-12-07T11:33:56.562-08:00Ramblings: Rockin' Green GIVEAWAY!!!!Ramblings: Rockin' Green GIVEAWAY!!!!I'm trying to win some funk rock and you should too.Funk rock takes away ammonia stinkies and burning diapers.nessabeanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11298704518890387530noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8379583044309756285.post-61032739771507843052010-11-16T08:25:00.000-08:002010-11-16T08:50:14.482-08:00Pumpkin Seed Flour Cake GF, CF, SFI made my first fondant cake the other day. It was a lot of fun and totally delicious. More and more I am making treats that taste delicious but are also healthier. I found this pumpkin seed flour cake at The Whole Life Nutrition. This blog has never ever let me down. Her recipes have fabulous helpful tips that made me the gluten free, casein free, soy free baker I am today. This cake looked nessabeanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11298704518890387530noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8379583044309756285.post-10211289430221673242010-10-13T19:34:00.000-07:002010-10-13T19:53:32.416-07:00Guitar Playingnessabeanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11298704518890387530noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8379583044309756285.post-58380841707581491852010-10-13T08:37:00.000-07:002014-03-28T08:57:02.041-07:00A Hankering for some chocolate and peanut butter
I love making healthy tasty treats for my kiddos. Things that I don't feel guilty giving them before dinner. Because we all know dessert tastes better before dinner. I am on a mission to learn to make treats and food that the whole family enjoys and can eat. D's food challenges make it the most difficult and M's add to it. There is a blog called the Whole Life Nutrition Kitchen that has taught nessabeanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11298704518890387530noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8379583044309756285.post-65202947770649846842010-08-12T12:53:00.000-07:002010-08-12T13:16:45.908-07:00Gluten free dairy free Zucchini Muffin or loaf recipeI have been experimenting with substitutions in my favorite recipes so that everyone in my family can eat and enjoy the same foods. With the amount of time I spend baking and cooking anything that saves me some time and effort (like not making 2 versions) is well worth it. These is my favorite recipe for zucchini and I just made these gluten free. Thought I would share my success with you all. nessabeanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11298704518890387530noreply@blogger.com0